Love your children for who they are, not what they do, and make sure they understand this.
As parents, we want the best for our children. We want to give them the ability to cope with life’s inevitable ups and downs. But to achieve this, we have to help them to do more than just discover and build on their strengths.
We also need to help them to accept and live with their weaknesses and limitations, and be at peace with themselves.
Unconditional love is the greatest gift any parent can ever give their children. And the funny thing is that it’s the one gift that every parent can always afford to give their child.
By clearly and persistently showing and proving to your children that you’ll always love them, no matter what they do, you can grant them the self-confidence, security and self-esteem they’ll need to be happy throughout life’s journey.
There are a lot of children motivated primarily by the desire to please others. My message to their parents is this one:
Your children need to know that being good at something is it own reward. At the end of the day, the reason for doing well isn’t actually to make others proud of you, but to realize your own potential. That means that the real competition isn’t with other people, but with yourself because it’s not the winning that counts, but the taking part’.
1. Never link your love for your children with your expectations of them.
2. Your kids need constant reassurance that you love them for who they are, not what they do.
3. Words aren’t enough: what you do says much more.
4. Proving to your kids that you love them helps them cope with inevitable failure and disappointment, and gives them the confidence to try again.
5. And most importantly of all, make sure you don’t give the impression that you love them because they succeed.